Hint: if you have not recovered from former heartbreak, it means that you likely buried the pain instead of dealing with it. So, what can you do now? Meditate, visualize the breakup and how you felt. Experience the pain. Cry. . . cry freely until there are no tears left. Repeat as needed. The worst thing you can do with any emotion is bury it. It needs to be felt. If you fear feeling your emotions, see a professional.
Choose Peace.
Others have asked how I remain happy despite some big problems in (and around) my life. Well, you must choose peace. Yes, it’s a very deliberate, unemotional decision in the moment. It is not easy to learn how to do this, but the 15 y.o. video below will help. 🙂
Open Your Heart to Angels.
I have been helped by angels at 3 critical times in my life. One angel was Christina, another was Steve and my current guardian angel is Raimie. God assigned each of them to me at these critical points in my life, mainly because I was stupid, stubborn and screwing everything up. 🙂
Angels are real. If you open your heart and your mind, they will help pull you out of the deepest black holes that we all can fall into.
Yes, I’ll Wait a bit Longer
It is almost one full year. I am willing to wait a bit longer for her, but if I don’t hear from her very soon, I am completely gone (there’s just barely a thread holding us together now…) and will never look back. The issue is that I don’t know if she is coming or not. So, why would I waste my life waiting for someone who is never coming? . . . I won’t. If at least she called and said “can we talk?” I’d know that she is interested in exploring the possibility of some sort of relationship. In all of the time that I’ve known her, she has given me absolutely no reason to think she may be interested and available.
But she needs to tell me (or show me) that she is interested. I’m not looking for anything long-term, but at least, we need to talk and figure out what is happening between us coz maybe nothing is.
Confidence Is Key
Jocko is basically correct in this video, but he does not address the most important prerequisite. . . CONFIDENCE.
To tackle life’s ‘bad-breaks’ and to then overcome them, you need confidence. Confidence only comes by tackling smaller problems and succeeding again and again. Strength and courage will get you individual achievements, which when repeated many times over, brings confidence to your personality. Then you can tackle any problem that gets thrown your way, knowing that you can solve it.
I’m On Fire…
“At night I wake up with the sheets soaking wet and a freight train runnin’ through the middle of my head, only you, can cure my desire. . . Oh, oh, oh, I’m on fire”
Past Life Unfinished Business
This video is also AI narrated, but the content is interesting, for sure.
Is It Possible That We Are Twin Flames?
It’s been about a year since we have talked in real time. From day one, I felt an unexplainable bond to her, even though she is young enough to be my daughter. The bond was 10 times more powerful than anything I had ever experienced in all my life. Yes, there was a romantic component, but romance was not the core emotion. The love was so much deeper than that, yet I hardly knew her.
I asked her 3 times in as many months whether she felt the connection too. She never really said no, but clearly, she never said yes. On the third ask, she got angry. I don’t allow anyone to treat me that way, so I walked away. We haven’t communicated since.
Based on a little research over the past months, I feel that it is very possible that this is a twin flame connection. Early on, I tried my hardest to break it. After 10 months of trying, I thought I had. That was almost 2 months ago. The connection is greatly diminished now, but still exists.
These days I’m doing ok, but I still think about her and I still feel deep love for her. (It is bizarre that I feel this still.) The obsession is gone, but the overall desire to be close to her is still here. I sometimes question “does she want me?”, “does she even care?”, “will she reach out?”, “is she happy?”, “are we destined to be together?”, “given the opportunity to start over, would I take it?”, “do I even still want this?”, “is there someone else meant for me who is waiting in the wings?”.
What I know is that if this is a twin flame connection, the pain is not her fault. That’s just how it is. This video confirms that.
