One last thought before my weekend trip. Don’t try to control other people. The smart ones will likely see the game early on. They may test you. They may allow you to play your silly game, for a while. But if you keep it up, the strong ones — the ones with self-respect — will leave.
A relationship needs to be based in love and communication, not control. If your loved one does something unintentionally that hurts, you need to tell them and work out a solution, together.
If you are trying to control a relationship because in the past you’ve been hurt badly so now you fear being hurt again, you must stop. Take the time needed to heal the emotional wound. Next time, take a closer look at your new potential partner before committing.
Love and war are very similar. You are sure to be wounded in both. You need to heal and carry on, no hatred, no anger, no resentment.
A relationship is a partnership. One person is not superior. Both must have equal respect for one another. But that starts with respecting yourself. If you don’t respect (and love) yourself for who you are (no mask – no faking it) how can anyone else truly respect and love you? If you hide your true self, how can anyone else love the real you?
So, be you. Love you. Respect you. Show the world the real you . Being you is where you will find true love, happiness, peace and joy.
Lions don’t pretend to be anything. They are who they are. They command respect because they simply know who they are, and they show it to anyone who pays attention. BTW: if you find yourself near an uncaged lion, pay attention! 🙂
