Some people are confused when I say that “I want her, but don’t need her.” Let me use an example. Every evening after dinner, I desire a cup of coffee and a cannoli. I think about it, but then I decide it is not worth the effort of going out to get it and most important, it is not healthy food.
Instead, I eat something that is reasonably healthy and that I already have in the house . It’s nice to think about what you want, but what you want is not always good for you.
It takes mental strength and discipline to say “I want this but I can do without it”. And it takes a conscious decision to say “my health and self-respect are too important to be controlled by desire”.
