For anyone who has done any work trying to heal emotional wounds, it becomes clear fairly early on that many ( if not most) of our problems come from not being able to truly love ourselves. This is often most evident in our relationships with a spouse or with family.
You may need to watch this ‘short’ multiple times for it to really sink in (it’s only 12 seconds long).
This video below focuses on women, but the information is general enough to help anyone get started.
For a different perspective, you might take a few minutes to hear what this Buddhist Monk says.
Lastly here is some inspiration. . .
BTW: I was just asked if I require my “Life Partner” to be totally healed. First, I have no Life Partner. I’m “Single As a Pringle!” ha, ha… But no, I would not require a partner to be totally healed. How could I? None of us is completely healed. Certainly, I am not. I do think though that I need someone who is willing to work on themselves. I would not be happy with a woman who feels that she has no work to do because she is perfect and that any relationship issues are completely my fault. 🙂 A relationship should be a 50/50 deal. And, it is based on clear, truthful communication. If in the past, communication was poor, that’s the first thing to work on, by both people.