For anyone who has done any work trying to heal emotional wounds, it becomes clear fairly early on that many ( if not most) of our problems come from not being able to truly love ourselves. This is often most evident in our relationships with a spouse or with family.
You may need to watch this short multiple time s for it to really sink in (it’s only 12 seconds long).
This video below focuses on women, but the information is general enough to help anyone get started.
For a different perspective, you might take a few minutes to hear what this Buddhist Monk says.
Lastly here is some inspiration. . .
BTW: I was just asked if I require my “Life Partner” to be totally healed. First, I have no Life Partner. I’m “Single As a Pringle!” ha, ha… But no, I would not require a partner to be totally healed. How could I? None of us is completely healed. Certainly, I am not. I do think though that I need someone who is willing to work on themselves. I would not be happy with a woman who feels that she has no work to do because she is perfect and that any relationship issues are completely my fault. 🙂 A relationship should be a 50/50 deal. And, it is based on clear, truthful communication. If in the past, communication was poor, that’s the first thing to work on, by both people.