My friend Rich asked how I could turn Evelyn away. She is young, beautiful, wealthy, passionate, smart and capable of deep emotional connection. Below is what she sent me on Christmas morning along with the words “I’m falling in love with you!” Despite all of this, there was one big red flag. She wanted to control me. Even when she came here from Phoenix to reconcile, she just pretended that there had been no breakup and instead of talking things through, just tried pressuring me to go to dinner. It felt all wrong. I won’t bend to anyone’s control. The lesson for some of my friends (who would have given anything to be with this young woman) is “first and foremost, be true to yourself, always”.
Rich also asked “What did she see in you? You’re an ugly old man!” (lol yes that’s my friend… insulting one another is a Jersey thing. Plus, he’s basically correct. Ha, ha.) That was my first question to her. Her answer was that she had been following my Facebook posts (this was Nov 2025) and was very attracted to me as an older man because she was seeking “deep love”. She said that she felt a love-of-life in me and emotional maturity. I say “Baby… everything about me is mature! (and a bit dried up)” Lol. According to her, young men today are insecure, immature and looking for more of a mother than a life partner.