Things come into your life when you decide to go for it. I would add to this woman’s teaching points [in the video below] that making the decision, is more about committing than simple decision making. The issue is that some of us are fearful of committing. Maybe we committed to something (or someone) in the past and that thing or person subsequently abandoned us.
The emotional wound created by the abandonment, if not processed and healed leaves us unable to commit (out of fear of being hurt again) and therefore unable to make that critical decision (should I go for this new thing/person). Being unable to decide then leaves us stuck with no way out and feeling trapped. The answer: get help healing the old wounds that have not healed.